Author: Jacques Martiquet

The story of my Ph.D. in party science… the only one.


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Yes, I am serious. Party science is a field of research that I am trailblazing. I created it for the sake of public health.

In high school, I was a lonely, stressed-out, video-game-addicted ass-hole. I had so little emotional intelligence that I lost my first job, my first girlfriend, and all sense of belonging. I had very few real friends.

This all changed after I arrived at University. I started partying. A lot. Putting myself into new social situations changed me forever. Because during every party, I faced my fears and forced myself to develop social skills… I was doing it all sober.

It’s a long story, but while attending my first music festival, sober-partying became part of my identity. This was before I knew about party science, its ancient history, or its positive effects on the brain. This was before I was convinced that it was a solution to many public health problems.

It was in 2015. I found an artist pass while volunteering back-stage at Squamish Valley Music Festival. With encouragement from my side-kick Julien Hart, I decided I would do something crazy with the pass.

At prime time that night, I went to the main stage, entered back-stage, positioned myself right below the DJ, and launched myself off the barricade into the crowd. Not a single drop of alcohol in my system, I crowd-surfed for almost a minute. I lost my phone and both IDs.

I had never felt so alive and connected to everyone in my life. Thank god I have a video of it.

This experience was my first experience of flow state, and it led me down the path of becoming a party scientist. I wanted everyone to feel as alive and accepted as I did. And I knew it was possible sober.

During my pharmacology degree, sober partying was my classroom for learning how to release stress, get into flow, and overcome self-consciousness. I would literally be so ‘High’ on life at some university parties that people would ask me what drugs I was on, sometimes the whole party would cheer me on, and other times I would get the whole crowd following my lead while smiling and laughing.

I loved partying so much that I decided to work as a festival medic for 4 years. As a medic, I realized that most people did not know how to release their inhibitions or get high-on-life without drugs and alcohol. I realized that party culture was plagued with disconnection.

In one instance, I arrived on-site to respond to an alcohol poisoning in the campground. I found him after charging through a sea of tents, unconscious, face-down. In his vicinity, there were fifteen people taking shots in a circle and no one cared to check to see if he was alive. It disgusted me and showed me how unconsciously people were partying.

Pemberton Music Festival was one of my first festivals as a medic.

Responding to overdoses, suicidal episodes, and fights traumatized me, but also inspired me to change how people were partying. Partying for me was an antidote to stress. It filled my life with meaning and electricity. It gave me a sense of belonging. It was healthy. It helped me thrive.

For so many others, it did the opposite. It was unconscious. It was superficial. It was inauthentic.

With a new mission, I started studying public health. I forsook the path of becoming a doctor and launched a renegade party company called Party4Health instead. The mission was to create a world where partying was healthy.

This is when things got interesting. Under Party4Health, I led renegade sober parties. Hundreds of them. Hike raves, beach parties, barge parties, train raves. I got to the point where I was leading thousands of strangers through the streets. During these parties, all demographic differences dissolved. The group harmonized. This was group flow.

My parties were all powered by a giant speaker I was given by Gary Lachance, the SOUNDBOKS.

I honed my ability and techniques for giving people healthy highs. Running parties became this laboratory for me to experiment with all the ways that humans can reach a flow state by connecting with each other.

After two years of throwing massive parties, getting interviewed by VICE and Global TV, and partnering with festivals like the Vancouver Pride Society and Shambhala, I decided I wanted to think bigger.

So, in 2018 I did something crazy. I planned a grand tour, called Party Sober All Over. I took my best friends with me and we traveled through the US in a big RV. In every city, my friends cheered me on as I threw a party at the local university.

Brad filmed the entire thing.

But, there was something wrong. People were not resonating with my message. They kept telling me to stop judging people for drinking. On this trip, I learned that I was judgemental, and that I was preaching sober partying. I was alienating the people I wanted to serve.

This hit me during a meeting with one of the founders of SOUNDBOKS, Hjalte. My mission was not to promote sober partying. My mission was to develop a new form of partying where the connection was more meaningful, the energy higher, and the egoism lower.

In this realization, the VYVE movement was born. I embarked on a new mission: invent a new form of mental health practice based on partying, but different. I called it vyving.

The new mission attracted another mad party scientist, Christopher, whose passion for mental health motivated him to join as a co-founder.

You may be wondering. What the hell is vyving? At this point, it was still in its infancy. I still didn’t know what it was. Chris didn’t either. We still didn’t know much at all about human connection or party science.

All we knew was that we craved the flow state we experienced when we led massive parties. It gave us a high that lasted for days.

This was not for long. With the birth of VYVE, I started researching partying seriously. I read books, interviewed party starters, and did experiments. I learnt that humans are hard-wired for sharing joy with another. I learnt that even cavemen did it. I dived into the mental health implications of a practice of ‘vyving’ and I was convinced it had the potential to transform our emotional well-being.

With my aspiration to become the world’s first International Party Scientist, I embarked on my first international party research expedition.

And this is how I earned my Ph.D. in party science. I stayed with locals, ignited hundreds of parties, researched hundreds of others, got invited to private retreats, and met dozens of professionals facilitators and researchers of human connection.

One facilitator who had a massive impact on my trajectory was Adam Wilder, whose retreat on the mediterannean island of Malta accelerated my maturation into a party scientist by years.

My lessons, interviews, and adventures laid the foundation on which vyving is based, a framework for reaching flow states through human connection. I was slowly figuring out how to hack peak states by leveraging group celebration.

Returning from expedition, the pandemic hit. And it was a blessing.

I took the party science insights collected during 400 parties in 13 countries and distilled them into a full framework and belief system. The philosophy of vyving was created because of COVID.

It took over three years for vyving to crystallize into what it is today. The experiments took place on the mainstage of festivals, the subways of New York, the streets of Amsterdam, the beaches of Vancouver, and the airplanes of west-jet. Too many party starters to credit. And an unknown number of hours of silent reflection.

Today, vyving is its own form of practice that leverages concious partying to hack the well-being benefits of group flow state.

to vyve /vīv/ (verb): to reach a state of flow through dancing, singing, and playing with other humans.

Everyday, people ask me what is vyving. I get a flashback to the moments of flow states with hundreds of others. Then I respond: “Vyving is a practice for your health and happiness. A weird one.”

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In our world today, the quality of our human connections is being attacked; we’re growing addicted to screens, we’re rewarding fakeness and materialism, and we’re working ourselves into depression.

Toper and I started VYVE to revive the joy and life in our human connections.

And this is why Chris and I will be building the movement until the day we die.

Human connection is the antidote.

Why I organized controversial, disruptive activities on Halloween.


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Creativity and determination were applied to create a “best night of my life” moment.

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Knocking on a neighbour’s door at 10PM, Halloween night, in a hazmat suit.

In the night, in the neighbourhood of Kitsilano, Vancouver Canada, I crept up on the patio of a stranger. I knocked on their door.

At another house, I pressed the buzzer. Three times.

Yet another, I went into their backyard.

One party scientist wearing a hazmat suit, on a mission to spread love, hope, and laughs.

It was uncomfortable. It was intrusive. It was controversial. But I knew that my efforts were rooted in good intentions. I knew that the people living in the house would appreciate the surprise me and my 7 close friends had in store for them. We had been rehearsing.

Welcome to Halloween in a pandemic.

This year, my creativity was tested. My co-founders and I, all party scientists and thrill-seekers at heart, asked ourselves: How can we bring the good vibes to the city while following public health guidelines?

In Vancouver, there is a limit of 6 people you can have in your household. So there were no house parties planned. Given the restrictions, Halloween was pretty much cancelled. A normal person would have accepted this and put on a spooky movie in the safety of their own home.

My squad, on the other hand, we had different plans.

After pondering the question for some time, one of my co-founders had the golden idea.

We rented a mini-van, got 6 of our best friends dressed in hazmat suits and masks, and we hit the road. It was time to distribute some love letters while performing a very special dance for unsuspecting families.

Michael Jackson’s Thriller. We called it the reverse trick or treat!

We met at WeWork, adorned our hazmat suits, and wrote the love letters. I picked up the minivan, and we all jumped in, singing songs on the way to the first (random) neighbourhood.

I went to the decorated house, knocked on the door, and pressed play on Thriller. Meanwhile, all my friends jumped out of the mini van and launched themselves onto the street, face down, dead, like zombies. Then, we slowly twitched upward and thrilled our observers.

Five houses later, our mission was accomplished. A 100% success rate. Everyone we handed a love letter to was filled with hope. People were doing the thriller with us from their balconies. Someone gifted us a box of chocolates. A group of teenagers joined our dance and sang with us in the street.

Our success illustrated a few realities of being human.

First, we exaggerate the risk of socially edgy activities.

“Nothing in life is as important as you think it is, while you are thinking about it.” What this means is that when humans are thinking, they exaggerate the importance of what they’re thinking about. This is called the focusing illusion. When we think of uncommon social behaviours, we exaggerate the potential negative consequences in our minds. We make it a big deal in our minds. We think about all the people we can piss off. We exaggerate the consequences of pissing people off. We fret.

Humans have a negativity or ‘haters’ bias. We’re plagued with the tendency to pay attention to the one critic instead of the ten praisers. This bias, complimented by the focussing illusion, explains why I am likely the only person on Earth to assemble my friends in a minivan and perform the thriller in front of strangers in random neighbourhoods.

What I have realized in my years of igniting impromptu dance parties across the planet, in often inappropriate places, is that the negative consequences are often less likely and less severe than I thought. This realization has led to some of the greatest achievements of my life. By consciously disentangling the risks of social stunts (like talking to a stranger or dancing in public), I have become invincible to analysis paralysis.

Somehow I have never been fined for starting very loud singalongs at 2AM…

Second, there is an inherent fear of being ostracized to human psychology.

Why do humans follow social norms? Why are 50% of people very slow in adopting new technology and ideas (according to the diffusion of innovation theory)? Why are we so afraid of rejection?

Genetic coding. Humans are genetically engineered to fit in because isolation is a threat to survival. In the savannahs of Africa, being deserted by the tribe meant certain death. And so, the fear of being ostracized was an adaptation to avoid that. But it is no longer healthy to operate based on this fear.

We certainly didn’t when we went out into the streets, grabbing our crotches, blurting ‘heeeeheeee.’

I argue that it’s actually healthy to step outside conventional social norms. Why? Because they have been engineered by advertisers and capitalists. In my article about toxic social norms, I explain why social norms are like cigarettes. If you take your happiness seriously, you MUST deprogram yourself socially.

So, it’s necessary to break free from the fear of being ostracized and practice authentic expression. To do this, we must stop showing off and obsessing over what people think of you. These behaviors prevent us from having fun in new ways and are characteristic of ‘status anxiety.’ This is a cause of depression, according to Johann Hari.

Third, the best moments in life involve shared risk-taking.

We cannot deny that there was a risk in travelling through the night, playing loud music and dancing… During a pandemic. People could have thrown stuff at us. People could have rejected our offer.

I’ve said it before, and I will say it again: ‘Fun and danger are on the same wavelength.’ Replace danger with challenge, if you are more risk-averse. When the stakes are higher, people’s emotions are higher. And when an eventual success is declared, the celebration is more intense too.

This is exactly what happened last night. We didn’t know what would happen. There was the possibility of failure. We could have gotten into trouble for jumping out of our minivan in the middle of the street. But, when we didn’t, it exhilarated us. When a young boy finally emerged from his house after the 5th buzzer ring and said he’d watch our thriller, we were ecstatic.

The ‘shared’ element is super important. Humans bounce emotions off each other. We are naturally emotionally-sensitive creatures. When suspense is experienced by a group, it’s more intense than suspense experienced by an individual. When a challenge or threat is overcome by a group, the celebration is louder and rowdier, because of the amplification of emotions that happens when humans synchronize.

So. What to do?

Stop being run by social norms, your body-guard-like thinking tendency, and the idea that you are stronger if you can do it alone.

Go out and set your individualistic ego on fire. And make the fire bigger by bringing friends.

How to touch someone without touching them.


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The benefits of touch justify learning how to touch humans without touching them. Let me tell you how. I’m not crazy, I promise.

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A photo from Amsterdam’s Daybreaker, 2019. It begs the question: What’s a good replacement for human limbo?

March 6, 2020, I returned to Canada from the ‘human contact’ festival, having led a workshop on accessing joy through human connection and multiple 200-person bear hugs on the beach. This is Envision Festival, and here is how people at the festival like to connect: holding hands, colliding bodies, and cheering loudly. Pure expression.

There’s definitely something magical about the synchrony of it all. When you bring hundreds of bodies into proximity, and when they exchange emotions through touch, movement, and vocalization, it’s really easy to feel connected, accepted, a part of something… and high.

I have made this observation in 12 different countries. Human touch and proximity were so fundamental to my art form: facilitating massive, ritualistic celebrations. So, did I cry and panic when COVID hit?

No.

I chose to be optimistic; prosocially intelligent people are resilient in finding ways to create joy and belonging in their interactions. So, I started leading massive virtual parties, for companies like Chevron, and for thrill-seekers across the world. Every week, I would sit down and invent a bunch of virtual games and exercises to elicit the same DOSE (Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins, Thank you Radha Agrawal), which is much easier to generate body-to-body. But then, something horrible happened.

I got sick of virtual connection. I started to long for the high generated by the physical presence of others. Good thing I lived in Vancouver.

The cases were so low in Vancouver at the time (May). So, I safely assembled a crew and held bike raves, every week. I drafted safety protocols, designated a Chief Safety Officer, and designed human connection activities. It was fun, and I got interviewed in the news to share tips on how to party safely.

After 15 events, I had learnt some alternatives to touch and proximity. My style of facilitation had transformed. I am no longer orchestrating crowd-surfing, bear hugs, and ‘mega drops’ (my favourite celebratory activity). But I believe I have found techniques that mimic the exhilaration.

I want to share with you the results of my experimentation.

This is a party scientist’s guide to replacing the high of physical contact. Without the virtual ****. Below are five different techniques that you can use in your in-person interactions with others to revitalize them.

Let’s dive in.

Use your eyes.

When we engage in eye contact, we transfer emotions. I call it emotional presence; I look at someone intently in the eyes and notice their emotions. Eventually, you cannot help but start to feel their emotions. Oxytocin is released and you start to feel closer. www.human.online provides a platform for engaging in eye contact through zoom.

In your interactions, look people in their eyes and hold it. Absorb their emotions and get high off oxytocin!

Use your body.

Using your body encompasses positioning, facial expression, and posture. Position yourself so you are facing the person. Express emotions through your facial expression. Open your posture toward the person by having your palms face toward them. Two things happen when you practice these techniques. The likelihood that you will feel what the other person is feeling increases, and your ability to express emotions that will transfer to the other human increases.

Who likes being in at a party where everyone has a neutral facial expression? I don’t. In my interactions, I exaggerate my facial expression organically because I have sensitized myself to the emotions of others. When I do this, it creates permission for others to express themselves more.

In summary, create an ‘into it’ vibe with your body language.

Now, practice emotional reflection.

Eye contact and body language are two prerequisites for emotional reflection. This is one of my treasured methods for amplifying expression in my social interactions. Here’s the principle: Whenever someone expresses an emotion, that emotion can be amplified if you feel it and reflect it back at them. Using eye contact, gestures, and facial expressions, you can create more joy in almost any interaction.

Sadness can be amplified too. But, I prefer to amplify joy and deflect negativity. When you practice emotional reflection for uncomfortable emotions, you reduce your ability to actually support the person in front of you. Empathy is sometimes overrated.

Leverage synchrony.

There are piles of research articles on the links between synchrony, in the form of laughter, singing, and movement, and neurochemical changes in the brain. When someone laughs, sings, or moves, I automatically start to mirror them. It makes me feel closer to them, and it amplifies the expression.

Don’t feel the desire to laugh, sing, or move? Try paying more attention to the expression happening in the human before your eyes. Feeling others’ emotions is one way to practice authentic emotional reflection. There’s also the ‘fake it till you make it method.’ Even if I don’t feel like moving, laughing, or singing, I do it anyway. And it changes my state as a result.

This behaviour relates to my philosophy. Here’s one principle I remind myself: Stop being ruled by your state and take conscious action to control it.

Help others.

The helper’s high. Have you heard of it? It turns out that when we consciously choose to help others, it can make us feel good: dopamine and oxytocin are released in the brain. This DOES NOT happen when we are guilted into helping another person. Helping others when you have not choosen to do it results in resentment.

My suggestions for simple ways to exercise kindness is by practicing an attitude of gratitude (saying thank you 20 times per day), spending money on others, sharing relevant information with others, and connecting people to others in your network. These actions fill my life with meaning, I find.

Share non-attributive gratitude.

I mentioned that I try to say thank you 20 times per day. It’s a form of acknowledgement. This technique goes a step further. Non-attributive gratitude expressions are characterized by the acknowledgement of the specific actions that someone took, the description of the impact they had on you, and the linking of those actions to the person’s values.

Here is an example: “Rod, your presentation was very thought-provoking and clear. I loved your analogies. It helped me stay engaged and understand the value of OKRs. I have a lot of confidence in your communication skills. It says a lot about your attention to detail and your ability to articulate complex ideas.”

Being specific and personal is the name of the game. After every experience I lead in Vancouver, we practice this technique by participating in an appreciation circle. One by one, people go into the center and appreciate one another. I also like doing this at the dinner table.

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I am always building my repertoire, so if you have any tips or tricks to add, I would love to hear them.

What is your favourite replacement for physical contact?

The new emotional intelligence is… prosocial intelligence.


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When I was 17, I discovered emotional intelligence. In 2020, I discovered prosocial intelligence, and invented a term for it.

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The ability to evoke positive emotions in interpersonal interactions is one of the underlying skills of prosocial intelligence.

After losing my first job as a lifeguard for making one of my students cry, I picked up Ekhart Tolle’s the power of now and started practicing self-awareness. As you know, this is one of the fundamental skills of emotional intelligence.

Throughout university, my EQ skyrocketed. I started meditating, journaling, and forgiving. My relationships improved.

But, you can only go so far with EQ. There’s no doubt that being self-aware, empathetic, and self-regulated is useful. It transformed my quality of life.

But there’s a level higher.

EQ enables another form of intelligence: PQ (Prosocial Intelligence/Quotient).

To illustrate PQ, let me share one of the highlights of my life.

In 2019, I departed on a whim to Costa Rica to volunteer as a harm reduction staff at a festival. Upon arrival, I started a conversation with a stranger in the customs lineup of the airport. I made a good impression, we shared some laughs, and I got the guy’s contact, which came in handy a week later.

I arrived at my hostel in Jacco beach, my first destination. At my hostel, I met a group of Canadian travellers. I remember hanging around the pool with them, engaging in personal story-telling and introspection. We exchanged vulnerabilities and offered new perspectives. It was a moment to be cherished. It was a human-bonding moment.

A week later, I joined these travellers and stayed with them during another giant festival, this one world-renowned, called Envision Festival.

I did not have a ticket.

So, I messaged the stranger in the airport lineup who I knew was attending the festival. Surprisingly, he offered me a ticket. For free.

I rolled up to the festival with some music and led some bear hugs and singalongs outside the main gates. The main gate ambassador approached me and told me “We need to join forces!”

Epic moments later, I was eating with festival staff and I had earned a name for myself among the marketing team at the festival.

In 2020, they invited me back and I performed on the main stage, opening night, with my co-founder and another changemaker named Gini, a powerhouse entrepreneur and community architect who I had networked with.

So, in the span of three weeks, I networked with some incredible humans, and it led to some incredible opportunities and friendships. AND MEMORIES. At any moment, I can return to these memories and fill myself with excitement for life.

When you are prosocially intelligent, opportunities originating from positive, meaningful human connections fly at your from all directions. My trip is exemplary of this. I had scheduled to be in Costa Rica for one week. I stayed for three, made incredible business connections, attended a world-renowned festival, and had my first appearance on the main stage.

That’s not all. The entire trip, my mood was higher than normal, my physical energy was perked up, and my excitement for life was flying high. When you consistently engage in powerful, expressive interpersonal interactions, your mental and physical health is improved.

These are a few of the benefits of PQ.

So, what the hell is Jacques talking about? Let me define it for you.

PQ is the ability to initiate positive, meaningful human contact. Simple.

Not so fast however! PQ is more technical than that. You must develop a few core competencies before you can transform your social interactions into fuel for social, mental and physical wellbeing. The first is the ability to create internal psychological safety.

Psychological safety equals “a shared belief held by members of a team that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking.” Thank you, Amy Edmondson, for transforming how I relate with humans.

Then, what is internal psychological safety? Well, it’s a translation of your mindset. A growth-oriented, anti-perfectionist mindset enables you to justify taking interpersonal risks regardless of whether it is actually safe or not. On a plane and want to start a singalong? It’s not a safe place to take interpersonal risks.

I did it anyway, and created ‘interpersonal psychological safety.’

This is what Amy is talking about, above. This phenomenon exists within the group, not within your head. This has to do with how the group feels, not how you feel.

This is the second core competency of PQ: the ability to create interpersonal psychological safety. When this is present, suddenly play, fun, expression, and creativity become possible. The depth of your interactions increases. You get to meet the authentic human with whom you are interacting.

A natural extension of these core competencies is the ability to evoke positive emotions in your interactions. Joy, laughter, gratitude, love, excitement. Whenever I feel these emotions, I feel closer to the human with whom I am sharing them.

Positive emotions matter. They reduce stress, increase creativity, and accelerate social-bonding. They also make life exciting. They are healthy.

When you can access positive emotions through human connection, you free yourself from relying on unhealthy sources of joy: shopping, screen entertainment, drugs and alcohol, ‘likes’, (comment below if I am missing any!). The research suggests that you will live longer and happier if you source the majority of your joy from human connection.

I have broken PQ into three core competencies, but there’s one more which relates most closely to leadership: initiating prosocial activities in groups. Standing in an elevator with four strangers? Ask them to share what they are looking forward to. Sitting down at a dinner table with a bunch of acquaintances? Suggest that everyone introduces themselves with their nickname and obsession. Driving with your family or friends to a far-away location? Play a game or sing a song together.

Prosocially intelligent people have a toolkit of activities they initiate in group settings as a means to contribute MASSIVE value. The truth is, many social gatherings are poorly designed, too unstructured, and lack unity. By increasing the amount of closeness and fun in the room, prosocially intelligent people make a name for themselves.

Voila! Those are the four key competencies of PQ. Common among all of them is action.

I believe PQ is a step beyond EQ. You cannot have PQ without EQ. PQ has been the backbone for my mental health, my energy management, and my service-oriented relationship management.

I want to invite you to commit to one behaviour that exercises one of the core competencies I mentioned. Set forth and reap the benefits!

I hate virtual meetings, so I developed 10 tools to transform them.


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It’s uncharted territory. The whole world is stuck at home. Physical-distancing is becoming the new normal.

But, there is still hope. Technology has saved us from social isolation.

In the last three weeks, my confidence in technology for facilitating authentic connection and joy increased hugely. I have become a master of Zoom, the founder of a virtual disco club, and a resource to companies and teams looking for new ways to foster happy, healthy employees.

As a virtual connection specialist, I wanted to share some of my tools for facilitating cohesion and joy in groups with you.

Now is the time to become a master in facilitating virtual human connection!

#1: Designate a speaker.

Give people turns to speak. In a large group, interruptions can destroy the psychological safety within a meeting. If people want to speak or ask a question, I encourage them to let me know through the chat function.

#2: Leverage music.

Music is the universal human language. Before starting an event, I like to play a lighthearted song, one that everyone recognizes and ideally, one that elicits laughter. As an example, you can play the lion king.

#3: Leverage movement.

With everyone stuck at home, getting enough blood flow to the brain is important. Physical exercise releases endorphins. It changes our mood. I like to have my participants stand up and clap to a song or follow a few simple movements. You can have your participants lead these movements, as well.

#4: Leverage visualization and smiling.

At the very beginning of my video calls, I leverage visualization in two ways. I get my participants to imagine they are in a room together. And, I encourage my participants to imagine their best friends’ smiles in the room with them. Afterward, I get everyone to share a smile with everyone else on the video call.

#5: Ensure two-way emotional exchange.

If participants are watching instead of interacting with others, it is less likely they will experience joy and belonging. I use the break-out room function in Zoom to allow more interactions among my participants (this assigns them to small groups). I also give my participants ways to interact with one another. Example: An open mic at the end of the event.

#6: Let participants be seen.

To be seen and heard is a psychological need. During group activities, I spotlight different participants, meaning, the entire group sees them on the screen. This gives them a chance to say hello to everyone else on the call. Meeting hosts, stop hogging the spotlight.

#7: Show and tell.

Being home-bound puts us in proximity to a lot of meaningful keepsakes. I like to have my participants share a meaningful item with the group, often times accompanied by a short story. This has been successful in fostering emotional closeness.

#8: Play a game.

There hundreds of games out there. Jackbox and Deepfun.com are two great resources. Two of my favourite games are called No No No Thank You and Competitive Blessings. These games are great because they are simple, short, and require no interface.

#9: Watch something laughter-inducing together.

Shared laughter is a medicine. Find a meme or short video that is innocently funny. Share your screen and computer audio, and voila! Make sure to unmute participants so you can hear everyone laughing.

#10: Do a compliment shoutout.

This is a gratitude exercise. I encourage my participants to either (a) use the chat to describe and compliment what someone did or (b) I give the mic to someone who wants to verbally compliment another participant in the group.


This is a snapshot of some of the tools which I incorporate into my virtual joy experiences.

Have a team that requires a boost of joy, team spirit, and connection? I can help you develop an experience to do just that. Email: Jacques@vyve.life